Misconceptions

It is interesting because when most people meet me, they would never guess I consider myself an introvert.  There is a misconception that introverts are anti-social, always on the sidelines in social situations and are shy.  This couldn't be further from the truth for me.  I LOVE being around my friends and meeting new people.  One of the best things about the dance community is that wherever you are in the world, you will be welcomed with smiles when you go to any salsa or bachata dance event.  It's like this secret world where people of all ages get to go out and connect with others, forget about the real world and do it all with minimal alcohol and minimal conversation.  It is a beautiful and healthy hobby.  As an introvert, it is also a way to be social but not expend all of my energy that is normally used listening intently to other people.  

The reason that social activities can be draining for people like myself is that I like to go deep.  Meaning, I thrive on deep, meaningful conversations with people where I can begin to understand who they are and what they are all about.  When I am in a large group of people, thecasual, light pitter patter conversation can leave me feeling unfulfilled.  And I feel a little awkward.  Because I just want to get to the root of things which doesn't happen in light conversation. 

With dancing, there is no need for light convo... in fact, leads asking me to dance are the only words I often hear on a night out.  It is wonderful!  If there are new people I connect with, we can find another time to hang out and poof!  Back in my element of one-on-ones and deeper convos.  

Viva la Bachata, Malaga 2023